All
people we mingle and dwell with are not our friend. We may call them friends in
our own heart but to some we mean nothing close to a friend to them. There are
different levels of friendship which are never really obvious on the surface;
it is only when you reach a crisis point in your life that you find out just
who your true friends are.
Fake
friends are a term used to describe fair-weather or selfish friends. Fake
friends are those friends who deceive us and break our trust somewhere down the
line. True friends are like diamonds (precious and rare), while fake friends
are like autumn leaves found everywhere. A faithful friend is the medicine of
life. Friends are rightly called an alter ego and they are perhaps those people
with whom we can share our joys and sorrows. True friends will offer their unfailing
support no matter what we try to do, even if they don’t agree with our choices
they will still support us in them.
A
real friend and fake friend can be hard to distinguish, but they are very
different! Adversity is the litmus test of any friendship. A big difference
between real and fake friends is how they deal with our ups and downs. If
you’re feeling down, a fake friend will pat you awkwardly on the shoulder and
try to change the subject. Our real friends will wrap us in their arms and
listen to our blubber all night, if we want them to. They will always listen to
our moan and rant and offer us a shoulder to cry on whenever we need it. Real
friends are there for you, whether you’re happy or sad.
When
the time comes that the partying and socialising has to come to an end and
instead of sending out party invitations you are issuing requests for help and
support, just see how many friends will answer the call. It is in tough times
that you discover just who your true friends are, when you reach out for
support during your darkest days and find that they are still there to support
you. A fake friend is never really there for you. The hardest part about
friendship is that it may start true and become fake as years go by. Or maybe
someone first was pretending to be your friend and it grew into a real bond.
It's not all black and white, but if someone is showing these signs, it's time
for you to sit down and think about how true of a friend they are.
Real
friends are people you can go to for anything. You know they will always be on
your side, through thick and thin. Fake friends might as well be scum of the
Earth for all the support they will give you. If you can trust anyone to not gossip
around town about your dark little secrets, it’s your real friends. Fake
friends will treat your secrets like it’s nothing sacred. They will never think
twice to talk about your insecurities in public and embarrass you. They talk
behind our back rather than talking face to face with us. In times of
adversity, they desert others and leave them in a lurch. A real friend values our
confidence, and will not tell anyone.
One
should be careful while choosing friends and keep such fake friends at arm’s
length. Joan Jett had once rightly remarked, “You got nothing to lose. You
don't lose when you lose fake friends.” What's best for you is to say goodbye
to the people you discover are fake friends, and keep close to those you know
are true. It is always good to keep fake or fair-weather friends at arm’s
length. Remember, a man is known by the company he keeps.
